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Friday, October 15, 2010

"STEPHANIE MILAN DAHHHHLING" - LEGENDARY OVERALL MOTHER STEPHANIE MILAN!

At the Evisu Ball last weekend I was fortunate enough to be stuck in the bathroom with my icon, Overall Mother Stephanie Milan. Stephanie has been walking this scene for almost 25 years and in my personal opinion (and the opinion of quite of few others) is the most elegant female figure to EVER do it. Stephanie has stormed a ton of categories and won more than a ton of trophies.

Sitting in the bathroom with her and having a GREAT conversation with her and Chris Milan opened a new view of my icon. She kiki'd on the girls, dismissed her loss of the night (SHE WAS ROBBED) and wished well numerous other walkers simply based on their dedication to the category and the scene. Honestly, I never laughed so hard in my life and I can see why the House of Milan lives for her, cradles her as their mother and runs to be by her side.

I can go on and on about the two hours I spent with her but I'd rather allow you to see her in her glory. Walking the hell out of fashion, elegantly displaying her face and pumping that hourglass figure.

Stephanie, this is my tribute to you!

"I DON'T BUY LABELS FOR A BALL. I DONT GIVE A SH*T ABOUT A TROPHY... I BUY THEM BECAUSE I LOVE TO FAB. I'M STEPHANIE MILAN DAHHHLING..."

xoxo
Roxi

















HER FINAL WORDS FOR THE LATEX BALL 2009

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

EVISU BALL RECAP VIDS

The Evisu Ball was probably the most highly anticipated ball since their debut of an awesome movie trailer at this years Latex ball. Below are some clips of the action:

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LEGENDARY FQ PERFORMANCE

Friday, October 1, 2010

POP THAT CHERRY! I promise it won't hurt... (well maybe a little haha)



A lot of people have been asking me about walking for the first time so here is my POP YOUR CHERRY campaign.

Virgin categories are ideal for you to consider if you're nervous about walking for the first time. They are designed to bring in people who haven't walked or haven't won so that you can start walking or to improve your serving technique. In a virgin category, known walkers/winners are not allowed to participate.

So what is needed if you're walking FOR THE FIRST TIME?

Knowledge - research your category first. Find out who slays the category you're interested and watch them. Much like children, be prepared to mimic what they do to get tens and add your own personal twist to it.

Effects - Most virgin categories ask you to come in white; others may not. Make sure you abide by the rules set for the category. Don't end up getting chopped for wearing the wrong thing before ever showing your skill or talent. (That's the part that hurts)

THE MOST IMPORTANT NEED IS: (drum roll please)

Confidence - it's your best asset. Judges smell fear. You must believe in yourself and be strong enough to be judged by others. It isn't easy to walk out in a large group of your peers and perform.

It is a humbling experience though should you be chopped though. Don't ever assume you failed. Virgin categories are designed to be a learning experience. You can be chopped for two things: wrong effect or you don't fit the category. Always keep in mind that judging is based on personal interpretation of the category and that one judge may not see you and another will. Should you ever get chopped, thank the judges for their vote and gracefully leave the stage. After the ball, ask the judge why you were chopped. They will be honest and tell you why. Take their critiques and use them to walk the next virgin category.

Don't let criticism stop you. Icons are icons because they have compete for 15+ years and have battled numerous people in various states. Legends are legends for 10+ years of battling and statements and stars as well. Point is: we all, regardless of years walking, have to adapt and improve in order to gain a higher title or Life.

SO YOU'VE DECIDED TO WALK. GREAT! HOW DOES A CATEGORY WORK?

The commentator will call the category and all those walking should come to top of the runway.

One by one (or however many the commentator requests) walk up to serve it to the judges.

If you get all tens from the judges, you stand to the side and wait for everyone else to walk and receive their tens or chops. Those who have received tens now enter battle zone where you battle one on one to get closer to the win.

If you get chopped, gracefully exit stage right BUT watch the remainder of the category. See what the others do so that you know what the judges liked and disliked. It'll help you for the next time.

With all that said, I encourage all those interested in walking a ball to take a risk and put yourself out there. Balls are meant to be fun and competitive at the same time.

Here are some virgin category video to watch so you can see clearly what happens. See you on the catwalk!

xoxo
Roxi


VIRGIN FACE


VIRGIN RUNWAY


VIRGIN VOGUE